Emotions, we ALL have them! Just today, I snapped at my husband for no reason at all. It made me stop and ask myself why am I feeling impatient and put out? Is it really my husband or was something else causing my moodiness? In the end, I discovered it wasn’t my husband’s actions at all, but internal stress caused by poor time management on my part. I quickly apologized to my husband for my sharp tone, and then addressed what needed to be done. This ability to recognize and regulate your emotions is called “emotional intelligence.”
Now, before you are too impressed with my emotional intelligence, just know that after 38-years of marriage, I’m still working to control my emotions. Why is this? Why do we all seem to struggle with our emotions? As humans, we are made in the image of God with a body, a soul, and a spirit. As physical beings, we live in a physical world and as spirit, we are able to have a relationship with God.
That leaves our soul, which differs from our spirit because it represents our mind (thoughts), our emotions (feelings), and our will (ability to choose). God created us as emotional beings, yet the Bible warns us about making emotional decisions from our heart (Jeremiah 17:9-10). This is because our emotions, like our thoughts, our will, and our bodies are tainted by our sinful nature, which is selfish and rebellious.
So, is there a way we can control our emotions rather than letting our emotions control us? The good news is that as a child of God (believer and follower of Jesus Christ) we have the person of the Holy Spirit within us, who empowers us to live a self-controlled life. Years ago, God showed me Proverbs 25:28, “A man (woman) without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” This verse warns us that brokenness and destruction occur when we don’t recognize and control our emotions.
Years ago, when I first got married, I had a real anger issue, and try as I may, I could not seem to get it under control. Only after intense prayer and true surrender to God was I able to have victory over this emotion.
Today, I ask the Holy Spirit daily to help me control my emotions, as well as my thoughts, attitudes, and actions. Scripture tells us that, “the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” (Galatians 5:22).
For more, listen to our “Get the Hell out of Your Life” podcast, entitled God’s Insight on Emotional Intelligence, as Dr. Gary Layne and Ron discuss the steps God provides for us to have spirit-controlled emotions. Our podcast can be heard by clicking this link, https://podcast.thepromoter.org/